Kevin and I just celebrated our 2nd anniversary (and I really can’t believe it.) Where the time goes I just don’t know, but I am FOREVER grateful to be blessed with such a wonderful husband who loves and supports me unconditionally – I know, I know so mushy!!
I love looking back at pictures and remembering the little details of it….like the last picture of our first dance where my shoe got stuck between 2 bricks and came off. Always makes me smile! Happiest day of my life.
And in honor of that, I am writing a post about marriage…because obviously I am an expert now (HA…yeah right.) I by no means consider myself to be an authority at marriage, being married, or how to be a flawless wife. In fact, I’m not naive enough to think that Kevin and I have had our worst fight, our most challenging days, but I have learned and improved in these first two years as I will continue to all the days of my marriage.
As I began to write this post, I was composing a list of things I had learned in my own words. But as I was writing it, I found myself going back to different accounts I had read that had really challenged me, made me think. So I was like heck why not just share a few of those things with you all?! Maybe you can connect and learn from them as well. So these are just a few of the things that have made me strive to build a better marriage!
First is just a pin I saw on Pinterest (yes, I’m serious.) I’ll pin it on Two Broke Wives board if you want to see the original. It’s a pin titled “The Marriage Box” and this is what it says: Most people get married believing a myth that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for: companionship, intimacy, friendship, etc. The truth is that marriage at the start is an empty box. You must put something in before you can take anything out. There is no love in marriage. Love is in people. And people put love in marriage. You have to infuse it into your marriage. A couple must learn the art and form the habit of giving, loving, serving, praising, keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will be empty.
And it’s really, really true.
The second thing I saw is a blog post from the blog Butler Party of 3. Now let me preface this by saying I am Christian and the author of this post is Christian and the post is written from (surprise!) a Christian perspective, BUT I promise there is good information and advice in there even if you don’t consider yourself to be Christian! I still encourage you to read it. The post is titled “Being a Godly Wife.”
Finally, I think it’s important not to get static in your marriage. Comfortable, in the sense of being in a rut and not trying to improve, is not a place I want to be. So I have found different books and exercises for Kevin and I to work on together. And one that has been particularly interesting for both of us is a book called “The 5 Love Languages.” If you haven’t read it (or even heard of it), I think you should give it a try. We have enjoyed reading it together and trying to really understand each other’s love language. It is an easy read, but an eye-opening, worthwhile one.
I hope these resources help you the way they have helped me! If you have your own advice you’d like to share, please leave a comment.
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